precious gifts no matter which way they came to us
OK, so lately I have experienced a lot of comments from people who I am sure meant well but their comments rubbed me the wrong way.
"too bad these children aren't yours. They are sure cute" my thought: they aren't mine? then why the hell do I have them 24/7?
"I think you would find that even if these children were yours they would be different from one another" my thought: please use biologically yours
" Oh that is so sad you had to adopt to get children" my thought: Why are you sad about it? I'm not. Only frustrated that it is so expensive
" I feel so bad for you that you will never experience the joy of pregnancy" my thought: what being sick for at least 8 weeks very possibly longer, stretching in all sorts of strange places, not being able to sleep at night, needing to buy a new wardrobe. I think I will survive not experiencing that. I know there are some cool parts about being preggers too. But we all have different experiences in life and I am OK with that.
The list goes on but I will stop there and just say I know most people mean well. But I believe that once the birth parents signed those papers, my children became mine. And just one other thought to finish this semi bitter post. Whether we gave birth to our children or adopted them, they are all god's children, whom we have been given the privilege to raise.