a while back I had an unpleasant encounter with an acquaintance. She told me that stay at home moms have the easiest job in the world and we, who are stay at home moms, never have any right to complain. I would like to share my feelings on this never ending debate on stay at home moms vs. working moms.
1. life stinks! some women are working moms but would rather be at home. Some women who are at home would rather be working else where.
2. Whether you work outside the home or in it does not make you a bad or good mom. It is what you do with your time.
3. If you are doing your job right, staying at home with your kids is hard. There is a lot to do both with the kids and maintaining your home. I have young children so I know that most of my work will be destroyed faster than I can fix it. I get to deal with crying and meltdowns and intercept sibling fights, help with homework, play taxi, pay bills, grocery shop, yard work, read to my children, educate them, play with them, monitor what they are eating, sleepless nights.......... and in return no one says thank you Stephanie you did a great job today! here is your paycheck. But I am grateful I can be with home with them even if it means we cannot afford every luxury in life... I realize that this may not always be the case so I am trying to appreciate that I have this opportunity now.
4. I have worked part time(very part time) for several years so I had a glimpse of what it is like to be a working mom and I didn't like it. Trying to make sure you always have a care taker for your children, having to miss work when they are sick, feeling guilty for leaving them, coming home tired and then have to start on the house work and be a mother, it is frustrating and hard
But my point is..... why do we feel the need to be judgemental? No one can say who has it harder. So many things have to be considered, whether you love what you do, how many children you have, their temperaments,disabilities,your own standards of acceptable,financial situation,single parent, absentee parent, support groups, close friends and family..........
Let us as woman just appreciate each other and realize that except for those few individuals, we as mothers are doing our best and doing what we think is best for our families. It may be not what we wanted to do or it may be exactly what we wanted. But either way, it is life so accept it.
Now after than rant I would just like to say I appreciate my children and the opportunity I have to raise them.
Now if you will excuse me, it is Monday and time to clean the toilets. Peace and Love to everyone
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